To make themselves smaller
We say to girls “You can have ambition, but not too much
You should aim to be successful, but not too successful
Otherwise you will threaten the man.”
Because I am female, I am expected to aspire to marriage, I am expected to make my life choices, always keeping in mind that marriage is the most important. Now marriage can be a source of joy and love and mutual support, but why do we teach girls to aspire to marriage, and we don’t teach boys the same?
We raise girls to each other as competitors, not for jobs or for accomplishments, which I think can be a good thing, but for the attention of men. We teach girls that they cannot be sexual beings in the way that boys are. We praise girls for virginity but we don’t praise boys for virginity. We teach girls shame “close your legs, cover yourself” we make them feel that being born female they’re already guilty of something. Feminist: the person who believes in the social
Political, and economic equality of the sexes. ❞
Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie